Men are frequently chastised for their lack of empathy and chastised for their aggressive demeanor, but are these accusations really true? Let's see what Steve has to say. He is one of those persons who does not mince words and tells it how it is!
The author begins by discussing men's simplicity, believing that this vantage point will offer you an advantage in absorbing what's to come. To put it another way, if you can grasp this, you might be able to acquire a bird's eye view of the characteristics that define men as they are:
- What they do
- Who they are
- How much do they earn?
If a man hasn't satisfied his longings based on these three inquiries, according to Steve, he'll continue to doubt his own worthiness. Consider this for a moment: boys are trained to push through life, not to allow themselves to be put aside, and to embrace their role.
This weight is far too much for some. Even when a teenager reaches his or her mid-twenties, the struggle continues. He considers his own life path — Steve, a college dropout, found himself in a terrible situation in his twenties.
Ford had laid him off, and he had little money and even fewer options. He was invited to a local comic club by a woman for whom he used to compose jokes. He was hesitant at first, but he summoned his bravery and went.
The audience adored him, and he received $50, which may not sound like much in today's money, but back then, especially when you were broke, I'm sure it was a lovely experience.
Men, in general, begin to dry out and lose confidence when they do not pursue their objectives.
Women in the twenty-first century are encouraged to act, think, and be self-sufficient. However, when a man is unable to provide for his family, raise them, and offer them everything they deserve due to X-factors, his confidence begins to sway.
In this regard, Steve emphasizes that males may provide more than simply financial security for their loved ones, and can also provide emotional support.
When he fails to meet social expectations, however, a sense of despondency sets in. Steve also states the three things that every man requires:
- Love
- Support
- Sex
Men, on the other hand, prefer to cut through the nonsense and express exactly what they want. True, some relationships flame out while others stay longer, but on a general level, you control the extent of your relationship.
If you like someone, you start a conversation; if you don't, you don't even pretend to be interested in their beliefs, lifestyle, religion, or anything else.
If you try to give this unshakeable truth a philosophical spin, you'll discover that the world has always been this way. And flipping it on its head would require a lot of social engineering, which we don't believe is a good thing.
When a man approaches, don't assume he's just being pleasant and wants to hear about your latest daily backup tale. Most of the time, that man is pulled to you because of your physical attractiveness, charisma, or elegance, and he is intuitively ready to take the next step.
There's nothing wrong with it; it's simply the way things function.
Take, for example, a hypothetical case. You're a woman, sitting with your friends in a bar or café when a man approaches you and asks for your name or initiates a conversation.
Why is it that he happens to run into you and is intrigued, but he doesn't seem to share your passion for the other girls in the area?
Consider this: he isn't interested in your best friend's story, but in yours! What does this imply? He isn't there to chit-chat or engages in a political argument; rather, he is there to impress you and eventually obtain something from you (don't worry, it's not sex).
Now you know, and Steve Harvey didn't say this to take away the mystery of first dates, but rather to keep you up to date on the current flirting trends. Remember, if you don't set the rules, you'll find yourself playing someone else's game sooner or later.
In the following part, Steve cites fishing as an illustration of the relationship that has existed between men and women from the dawn of time. As everyone knows, there are two types of fishing: fishing for fun, or so-called Sport-Fishing, and fishing for food.
According to the tale, all men are born hunters. In other words, they're looking for prey, whereas women aren't as aggressive when it comes to extremes.
Consider this: men almost always ask for permission to take the girl out on a date, men almost always make marriage proposals, and men almost always ask for permission to take the girl out on a date.
What happens, though, if the girl is – hypothetically speaking – linked to the hook? Are we merely sport-fishing, or do we intend to boil it (this may seem harsh), but you understand the symbolic meaning!?
The lady, not the man, decides if he's a keeper or a sports-fisherman! And this is also true since a woman's actions influence what men do next - and while the phrase "judgment" may seem impolite on one hand, we all do it on the other.
It's not like you don't have to make decisions and create views on a variety of subjects. Even ladies are prone to passing judgment on another lady or guy based on the vibe they emit and the attitude they cultivate. It isn't rocket science to realize that everyone is prone to following this path.
Phase 3: The Playbook: How to Win the Game
The book's final, most exciting section is also the most understandable. We'll try to condense it as much as possible and present the most important points.
Steve sets out five questions that any woman should ask herself before deciding to pursue a relationship further:
- What are your immediate objectives?
- What do you want to achieve in the long run?
- What are your thoughts on romantic relationships?
- What are your thoughts about me?
- What are your thoughts about me?
When it comes to males, don't feel obligated to respond to them as well. For the sake of the possible partner's well-being, a genuine and caring man will also respond to these inquiries.
Our minds are formulating plans for everything under the blue sky that grabs your attention for at least a second, whether consciously or unconsciously.
The author critically examines the method of raising your value in the following brief section. Steve remembers being on the verge of bankruptcy in 1977 and how he managed to keep his spirits up.
When Ford Management revealed that if he proves to be a significant addition to the company in the next 90 days, they will present him with a slew of benefits, he was ecstatic.
The bottom line is that, regardless of vocation, this approach is essentially the same. Hunger for knowledge and eagerness to study can be your ticket out of unhappiness. He goes on to say how important it is to earn these rewards rather than having them handed to you.
This book is a terrific guideline for developing relationships and understanding one another in a hilarious but meaningful manner from beginning to end.